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How much do you really love your boss?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
She is a manager, he is an administrative assistant, she is fired when caught romancing him at his desk.
There have been a many a couple caught kissing and cuddling in the cube and the outcome is not always a joyous occasion.
Spending eight to ten hours a day with co-workers can make you develop special relationships. Even companies that have a strict policy against managers and subordinates dating have a difficult time keeping cupid from doing his work.
Here are some pros and cons to dating your boss:
Pros:
- Spending time together
- Car pool
- HOV lane
Cons:
- Co-workers uneasy about the cube kissing
- Boss-subordinate favoritism
- Home arguments carried over to work
- Relationships gone awry leading to potential discrimination or sexual harassment
There are even a few states that prohibit employers from taking action against employees who date. Georgia is not one of them.
If you do find someone you would like to get to know better, tread lightly.
Understand your company’s current policy and past practice. Make sure the person you are asking out has mutual feelings.
Ensure your approach is not going to lead to a sexual harassment claim.
If you are not interested, clearly let the other person know. No should always mean no.
Be prepared to ask yourself, what working together will be like one to five years from now.
Have you ever had a crush or relationship with the boss? Did you face any obstacles or dire consequences? Did you or your boss get fired or have to quit? Or have you been playing it safe by keeping things on the down low?
Note: Keep the comments coming and pick up the Sunday Jobs section. You might see your comments in it!
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By David
May 22, 2006 11:08 AM | Link to this
There are many more women/men outside the company than inside ……… go find them.
By What the...???
May 22, 2006 11:18 AM | Link to this
Romantic relationship with my boss??? Are you kidding me!? Not just no, but hell no! Are you insane?! The man is an idiot!
By Linda Love LaPrad
May 22, 2006 11:41 AM | Link to this
I dated and married my boss many years ago when women were first beginning to work in all-male jobs. The Program Director of a radio station in Lafayette, Indiana hired me right out of college to be their first on-air woman news reporter and anchor.
I walked into the news room and told my boss, the News Director, “Hi, I’m your new employee!”
He became my mentor.
We never saw each other on the job because we worked different air shifts.
We communicated by telephone and typewritten notes. As we began to get intersted in each other our notes got slightly more suggestive.
We discovered that other employees at the station were coming into the newsroom to read our notes to each other! We eventually started dating but kept it secret.
The other employees at the station discovered we were getting married when one of the Disc Jockeys overheard us planning our very small wedding on a telephone line that was used to bring people on the air live.
Because we were the station’s entire news department we finally had to tell everybody we were getting married.
Some of the on-air staff filled in for us for a few days at Christmas time when news was slow. We went to Miami for a very short honeymoon. We worked together at the same station for 5 more years as boss and subordinate and won an award for our reporting from the Indiana Associated Press. When we met strangers who didn’t realize we were married (since we kept our separate names on air) we used to joke that “The News Department that sleeps together stays together!”—Linda Love LaPrad
By TC
May 22, 2006 11:51 AM | Link to this
Never would date my boss, nor anyone I work with. It keeps up too much confusion between co-workers and other problems. I’ve never dated anyone I’ve worked with and never will. Because if he made me mad, bro man would be dropped off in the HOV Lane!
By Findmeanewjob
May 22, 2006 11:52 AM | Link to this
There is no way I would date anyone I work with including my boss!! I work with old people and they just don’t appeal to me… Also I have dated a boss before and it bombed big time!!