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By Julie

January 29, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

I have boo-hooed at work every day since August 9th, the day my mother went home to be with the Lord. I never know when the realization that she is dead will hit me. I cry in the car, at the store, everywhere. Can’t help it. I miss her. Thank God I have the hope that I will eventually be with her again. Being a motherless daughter is the hardest thing I have ever experienced.

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

January 29, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

I’ve cried at work before….but it’s few and far between…. I do cry in movies however.

By No way

January 29, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Work is one of those places where you put on your happy face and get to work. When upset, I have been known to go in the bathroom and slam the door, go outside to get fresh air or go to my car for a few minutes of solitude. Never say never, but work is your stage for performance. If you recd a dire family emergency at work and started crying, that is ok. General crying over stress or general crap is frowned upon. When leaving work, be yourself, cry, jump, play, sing, turn your radio up loud, etc. At work, a certain level of composure is needed if you want to be credible and get ahead.

By Lynn

January 29, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Julie, I lost my mom at a young age (59), just 8 years ago and still feel the way you do. Then my brother passed away last year and crushed me just as bad. I won’t normally think about them at work. It usually gets me on a long drive. Keep your head up and know there will be a day we’ll meet them again. That’s what keeps me going.

By JJ

January 29, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Julie So sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my father about 15 years ago, and I will still cry at the littlest things. For instance, I used to go with him when he would buy new suits. I always picked out his ties……My brother got a new suit for Christmas, and we were trying to pick out ties, and I lost it in the Macy’s men’s department, over a tie…..Or if I see a man smoking a pipe, it gets to me. I usually will walk up to a man smoking a pipe just to smell the tobacco. My dad smoked a pipe for years!!!! To this day, I cannot pass a Tinder Box without going in for a whiff…..

I don’t think we ever get over the loss of a parent. Like I said, it’s been 15 years, and I still cry. Not as often, but once in a while.

Keep your chin up, and celebrate her life, don’t mourn her passing. She wouldn’t want you to do that. To honor her, be the best person you can be.

By Seriously

January 29, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Julie, Lynn, and JJ I am sorry to hear about the losses of your loved ones. My instance of crying at work pales in comparison to your losses. However I did cry a few times after I had found out my girlfriend at the time had been cheating on me. No one saw b/c I would close the door to my office. It was at my first job after college back in ‘05 and I’d always be sure to tell my co-workers I needed a minute. Yes, I’ve done it before and am not above doing it again. In any event, I am sorry to hear about your losses and I pray that you gain the strength to continue moving forward.

By Jen

January 29, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

What about crying because you’re fantastically angry? Is that the same thing? For some reason I have that response when I get super angry. Instead of yelling, my face turns red and my voice gets low and tears come out…kind of like I am trying to bottle the anger up but it comes leaking out of my eyes!

By Leigh

January 29, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

I don’t recall ever crying at work at least not about work. I too lost my mother a little over 3 years ago and I was lucky enough to work at home reporting to the office about one time a week and did get teary eyed when approached about my loss. It has gotten easier to deal with as I know my mother is no longer in pain, finding it difficult to breath and a variety of other things she had to deal with. She is with the Lord and one day (although I hope not too soon) I will again see my mom as well as my younger brother who passed about 17 years ago. I still have my dad (there were only us 2 kids) but he moved to Alabama about 1 1/2 years ago. I miss him tremendously but at least I can still talk to him on the phone and he’s not that far away. I do agree with the other posts in that we should try our best to not cry at work for work related stress etc. I have worked with some people (all females) that have cried at the drop of a hat and I believe it was to get sympathy from the male supervisors. Sometimes it worked but more times it didn’t.

By Freelancer

January 31, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

My first job out of college, in my 20’s, I had to deal with a difficult person and LOST it. My boss happened to walk in while I was bawling. He was very fatherly and protective, so he got on the phone with the offender and chewed his a$$! Still, I hated myself for losing composure. The tears were from ANGER. NOBODY could make me cry now. I am the ice queen. I’ve calmly told folks off behind closed doors at work after they’ve tried to humiliate me at work. You will always be on the losing end (if you are a woman) and engage in a shouting and cursing match at work, no matter how much a person deserves it.

By Luc White

February 6, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Yes, I have. On that tragic day that the planes slammed into the World Trade Center Buildings. I had just arrived at the office and saw things unfold on the TV. I also cried the day my Dad died.